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Ending an unhappy marriage is not the answer for your children

Oct 11, 2009 8:04am

Why does Having Children Add more Stress for Women?

Aug 13, 2009 10:33am

Carrying the load of caring for children can be shifted around somewhat and it is only fair for husbands to do as much as they can. But it is wise to understand the underlying forces of nature that try to compel us to see things in a certain way. Read...

A Happy Marriage is Important for Children, Ending an Unhappy Marriage is NOT the Answer

Jul 23, 2009 3:16am

The ease of divorce does not mean it should be utilized. Parents need to exercise their free will to do what is right even when the easy way out is a tempting option. Isn't that what you teach your children? Read more......

Marriage can Go from Bad to Good to Excellent

Jul 13, 2009 2:21am

...most good people believe they or their spouse have changed so they just don't get along as they used to. Most people blame the lack of joy on anything and everything other than what the real problem is. Read more......

Where is the Marriage of my Dreams?

Jul 5, 2009 1:37pm

If you have spoken to anyone about the let down some couples experience after the first few years of marriage, they probably said something like, "oh, that's just what happens, welcome to reality." But marriage isn't supposed to transition down. In fact, a healthy marriage is supposed to transition into...

Divorce is Not The Answer to a Bad Marriage

Jun 20, 2009 7:53am

Someone trained in mechanics will help you out very quickly. It is the same for your marriage. If things are not very shaky it is likely that the problem is small and easily fixable. But because there is so little expertise in the marriage world people just give up and...

Is it Possible to have a Happy Marriage Quickly?

Jun 14, 2009 11:26am

I hope you noticed that the title does not leave room for failure. The question is one of speed rather than whether it is possible to have a happy marriage or not. Read more......

Even So Called Finished Marriages Can Be Saved

May 21, 2009 5:10am

Marriage is Supposed to be the Happiest Place on Earth

Apr 14, 2009 7:01pm

Whenever I meet with couples, the first thing I notice is how polarized they are. The first sign of a couple taking "sides" is that each of the couple defends their own behavior, or excuses it; this is what is taught in our environment. Read more......

Hollywood Love Relationships vs. Real Love Relationships

Apr 9, 2009 1:30pm

I went to the movies the other night with a friend to see "I Love You, Man" because the trailers looked pretty funny, but I probably should have missed it; it was painful. Read more......

What can be More Important than to Save your Marriage?

Apr 5, 2009 8:22am

Will Marriage Counseling Work with an Unfaithful Wife?

Mar 7, 2009 3:04am

Convincing an unfaithful wife to go to marriage counseling with you would be a very difficult proposition if what you have in mind is a return to a normal marriage. Most women who cheat on their husbands do so out of complete and utter frustration, but with the hope...

You can Save your Marriage and Turn it into a Happy Marriage

Mar 5, 2009 7:30am

Why would you even want to save your marriage if you couldn't turn it into a happy marriage? It is most unfortunate that our culture accepts the bogus concept of marriage requiring a tremendous amount of work in order for it to be successful. Read more......

Bad Marriage Therapy is Worse than Staying Home and Watching TV

Mar 4, 2009 1:37pm

The psychological community really has no business giving marital advice. Literally every couple who came to see me after trying marriage therapy was shocked at how simple it is to have a good marriage. Read more......

Is Asking for Marriage Counseling a Good Way to be Dealing With your Spouse?

Mar 3, 2009 1:33pm

If you had heard what psychology experts say about marriage, you probably wouldn't have gotten married at all. Read more......

How to Save a Marriage after your Husband was Caught Cheating

Mar 1, 2009 1:06am

Saving your marriage when your husband is having an affair is not at all impossible. Many couples have faced this problem and were able to develop a beautiful relationship; but there is pain. Read more......

Good Marriage Communication Alone won't Save a Marriage

Feb 28, 2009 1:12am

Everyone knows the importance of good marriage communication. There are many books on general communication, but marital communication is highly specialized. Read more......

Why Marriage Problems can Bring you to Divorce Mediation

Feb 27, 2009 4:07am

Marriage problems are rampant in most marriages; that is an unfortunate fact. And because our society is so uneducated in the area of marriage, most couples go from bad to worse in their marriage until they finally decide to end the suffering by getting a divorce. Read more......

Why would you want to Save your Marriage just to have Endless Marriage Trouble?

Feb 26, 2009 4:11am

"We stay married just for the kids..." I can't tell you how many times I heard that from really good people; couples who were willing to endure almost anything for the sake of their children. If you are making a pact just to live together, why not come up with...

How to Stop Divorce of your Second Marriage

Feb 25, 2009 12:20am

It is not entirely your fault that your marriages have not worked. If someone were to tell you, "Oh, go ahead, you can fly it, you don't need any training, everybody flies 747's," you would be in a heap of trouble. Our culture neither supports marriage nor advocates any kind...

Five Ways to Resolve Marriage Issues without Marriage Counseling

Feb 24, 2009 3:06am

Marriage counseling is one of the most ridiculous industries in our country. Marriage issues cannot be solved through marriage counseling but they can be solved by married couples. Here are five simple ways to resolve marriage issues that you can start using right now. Read more......

10 Ways you can Save your Marriage and be a Happy Married Couple

Feb 23, 2009 1:24am

To have people say, "There goes a happy married couple," all you have to do is learn what marriage is all about and follow the rules of success. Read more......

Stop Divorce by Discovering the True Causes of Divorce

Feb 22, 2009 3:04am

It is incorrect to believe that your marriage is over even after your spouse has filed for a divorce. Remember that the person you are married to was someone who chose you and who you chose to spend the rest of your life with. Read more......

Seven Ways to Avoid Grounds for Divorce without Marital Therapy

Feb 21, 2009 10:41am

In this day and age the term "grounds for divorce" has become somewhat passe. In most states all you need to do to get a divorce is file as "irreconcilable differences." But most people who get a divorce only get one because they don't know what else to do....

Divorce Mediation can Help a Cheating Spouse

Feb 20, 2009 1:15am

Divorce mediation can be more than just helping people split property and create child-sharing programs. A good mediator will look beyond the current situation a couple is going through in order to help them see the possibility of remaining together. Read more......

Dealing with your Spouse Affectionately can Save Your Marriage

Feb 19, 2009 11:09am

If you want to save your marriage, the question of how you are going to be dealing with your spouse is of paramount importance. There are different methods that have been tried and have proven to be failures time and again. Let's go over those failed methods which...

My Plan to Stop Divorce and End the Marriage Crisis in our Country

Feb 18, 2009 4:58am

Our country can literally stop divorce in its tracks if we eradicate the devilish notion that marriage problems are just a natural part of marriage. Read more......

Why should Marital Problems Lead to Divorce Questions?

Feb 17, 2009 2:28am

There is a certain hopelessness that funnels people towards divorce rather than solutions for their marital problems. The fact of the matter is that traditional and widely accepted methods of dealing with marital problems obviously don't work (a 50 to 60% divorce rate for first-time marriages is pretty gruesome). Read more......

Which Marriage Issues Really are Grounds for Divorce?

Feb 16, 2009 12:14am

When I realized how destructive divorce is to children, I began to study how to make marriages so good that no one would ever want to end them. I found that marriage is completely misunderstood, which is why the divorce rate is so staggeringly high. Read more......

Legal Separation is Bad Marital Advice

Feb 15, 2009 3:05am

If a man and a woman are having difficulty in marriage, they need to address the reality that their approach to marriage is simply incorrect. Getting distance from their soul mate will not help at all. Read more......

Make Valentine's Day a New Beginning for your Marriage

Feb 13, 2009 5:20pm

I don't think it's a coincidence that the name Valentine comes from the Latin word for 'worthy.' The actual Saint Valentine that we celebrate on February 14 was a Christian martyr, but not a patron saint of love, marriage or anything else that might be romantically connected to his name....

Valentine's Day Blues from your Unhappy Marriage

Feb 13, 2009 1:19am

Isn't it amazing that most of us will never really use much math in our daily life yet they pump it into our heads as if our life depended on it? On the other hand we don't know didily about relationships, happy marriages, or the other gender, and they hand...

Getting out of a Bad Marriage and Answering Divorce Questions

Feb 12, 2009 1:58am

ou thought your passion and mutual love would guide you through any conceivable rough spots? You felt your communication skills are fine? You think you understand your partner but they are not loving and considerate? You think you can do much better once you're free from this current "mistake"? Welcome...

Can Divorce Mediation Improve your Marriage?

Feb 11, 2009 8:50am

A good mediator will never funnel a couple towards divorce. From their own experience they recognize most couples are merely stuck in old habits. In most cases the so-called problems in a marriage are like dark clouds of misunderstanding blocking the sunshine of goodwill and love. Read more......

Marriage Counseling will Not Produce a Healthy Marriage

Feb 10, 2009 1:13am

Most people who go to marriage counselors end up getting a divorce within a year; their usual excuse is that these people were "destined" to get a divorce but made a last ditch effort. But that's like a doctor who loses all of his patients to death saying they were...

A Marriage Crisis should Not Lead to Divorce Questions

Feb 9, 2009 5:00am

If you were told to get in an airplane and fly it, I don't think you would attempt to unless you were a trained pilot. But when you got into marriage, you got into something that was way over your head because you had (have) no idea about what a...

Is My Cheating Husband Grounds for Divorce?

Feb 8, 2009 4:16am

Every couple who came to see me where there was infidelity, was able to rescue and resuscitate their marriage. In fact, they went on to have amazing marriages because once they learned how to be married, the normal evil actions of that infidelity were understood and put into a context...

When Troubled Marriage Leads to Divorce Questions

Feb 7, 2009 3:40am

When you no longer see a way out of the suffering it is perfectly natural to weigh your options and start looking at the repercussions of getting a divorce. Most people at that point are in survival mode which means the first questions are probably not even the correct ones. Read...

Marriage Counseling won't Create Intimacy in your Marriage

Feb 6, 2009 4:18am

The truth of the matter is that the field of psychology has almost no business getting involved in marital counseling. The proof of this statement is in the indisputable fact that marriage counselors suffer the same rate of divorce as everyone else; they obviously don't know more than anyone else...

Good Marriage Advice Can Prevent Good Divorce Questions

Feb 5, 2009 1:25pm

…why do we have a divorce rate of around 60% and a happy marriage rate of (I'm guessing here) 5 to 10%? It's because good marriage advice is hard to come by and good divorce questions are easily answered. It should be the other way around! Read more......

The Challenges of Interfaith Marriages

Feb 4, 2009 12:00pm

Marriage is an invention of God's. Although God's laws are "defined" through religion His love is the universal component in all religions and the most important reality. While one religion may suggest the worship of God while on your knees and another religion has you standing up while you pray,...

Learn the Rules for a Happy Marriage

Feb 3, 2009 2:31am

If you think about it you might wonder why no attention is put on the subject matter of relationships and marriage in school. After all, not everyone needs algebra to get along in life but everyone needs to understand relationships in order to have a fulfilling marriage. Read more......

Marriage Counseling Can Hurt a Good Marriage

Feb 2, 2009 8:05am

Freudian-trained marriage counselors are trained to give therapy for various psychological ills. In a few cases the therapy they offer is useful. But marriages never need therapy; couples merely need information. Read more......

Marriage Counseling or Divorce Mediator

Feb 1, 2009 11:37am

In our society, in our time, the origins and correct uses of marriage are almost completely lost. The proof of my statement is in the divorce statistics and backed up by what everyone knows; happy marriages are extremely rare. My statement is also backed up by the fact that marriage...

Marriage Trouble, Relationship Problems and Faux Marriage Counseling

Jan 31, 2009 3:48am

If most people are getting marriage counseling when they are having troubles in their marriage or relationship why is there such a high rate of divorce? Are most people simply too stupid to be married? Is marriage meant to only be a place of suffering and endurance? Read more......

Marriage Counseling and Marriage Problems

Jan 30, 2009 3:06am

Have you tried marriage counseling yet? If you haven't my advice to you is don't risk your marriage. Marriage problems are the food for marriage counseling but not the solution for your marital problems. Many people who go to marriage counseling love the counselors they see - and then they...

Marriage Counseling Won't Help Your Sexless Marriage

Jan 29, 2009 3:07am

It is an interesting phenomenon that most of the complaints about sexless marriage come from women rather than men. It could be of course that when men get resistance to their desires for sex they either retire into a shell or look elsewhere. If you're looking for healthy...

When your Partner Lies

Jan 28, 2009 2:58am

...in a relationship there are broadly two categories of lying: one is where the partner is protecting them self and the other is where the partner is trying to protect you. Read more......

Marriage Counseling Won't Give You a Successful Marriage

Jan 27, 2009 1:56am

When I first set up my practice to help people learn how to turn their marriage around and create a happy relationship, I was astounded by the number of people who had already been to marriage counselors and had failed. I thought my own experiences with marriage counseling were...

Marriage Counseling - One of the Greatest Causes of Divorce

Jan 26, 2009 1:50am

I know that it sounds crazy to list marriage counseling as a cause of divorce and even crazier to call it one of the greatest causes of divorce, but it's true… Clinical psychologists are not healers; they are essentially students who rarely have the same mental capability as doctors. ...

Why Save Your Marriage? - 3 Good Reasons

Jan 25, 2009 7:33am

When people reach the end of their emotional and psychological rope they invariably ask if their marriage is worth saving. Ironically, they already know intuitively they should save their marriage; they just don't know how. Read more......

Save Your Marriage - Save Your Children

Jan 24, 2009 7:26am

We humans are pretty clever in our ignorance. When it comes to describing the results of divorce we have become masters of ignorance. Not only have we accepted divorce as normal but we have excused it completely and even come up with so-called benefits Read more......

Save Your Marriage From Ghosts - 4 To Do's

Jan 23, 2009 7:22am

The ghosts I want to save you from are the formless phantoms that may be haunting your marriage. The formless entities that threaten your marriage are very real indeed. The most destructive phantom you can save your marriage from is Fear. Fear is the spirit of mistrust,...

Marriage Crisis

Jan 23, 2009 7:14am

The divorce rate in our society is so high that everyone gives up long before they should without fully considering what they could do to save their marriage. And it is completely understandable. Part of the crisis in our country is that when people are having difficulty with...

Stop Divorce

Jan 19, 2009 12:33pm

It is my passion and my mission to stop divorce. It is destroying my country and eroding my family tree. It has undermined my community and impacted my children. It has defined the society within which I live in terms that are an embarrassment. I see people who give up...

Saving a Marriage is Easier Without a Marriage Counselor

Jan 17, 2009 7:53am

Most people think saving a marriage is a pretty complex affair, but it isn't. Imagine if somebody gave you the keys to a car before you ever learned to drive. That's what it was like for you and most people when you got married. People just expect...

Relationship Counseling Usually Won't Work - 5 tips

Jan 15, 2009 7:48am

We live in a very difficult world. We are surrounded by criticism and nonsupport and so we are always on the defensive. It seems most of the time we are faced with challenges; prosperity and happiness do not come naturally to most people, they have to be fought...

3 Reasons to Avoid Marriage Counseling

Jan 13, 2009 7:39am

People are starting to become more aware of the pitfalls and dangers of marriage counseling. I personally cannot think of a more misleading group of so-called professionals. There are some very good reasons to avoid marriage counselors. Read more......

Maintaining Healthy Relationships - 3 Ways

Jan 11, 2009 7:28am

Most people, not only you, are insecure about their relationships. It's not just marital or significant other relationships that can be difficult. Maintaining healthy relationships is universally a problematic experience. Read more......

Relationship Rescue

Jan 9, 2009 7:17am

It is easy for most people to understand why they need training in order to be safe. I hope you see where I'm going with this. Read more......

Infidelity Warning Signs and 4 Solutions

Jan 7, 2009 7:14am

I think you'll find my approach to infidelity warning signs a bit different then what you have heard from top psychologists. My approach is not for you to spy on your spouse, but rather take a look at your own behavior. Read more......

Causes of Divorce

Jan 5, 2009 6:57am

When I began my research into what I needed to know in order to help people have a happy marriage one of the first things I looked for were the actions that lead to unhappiness. Still my simple idea was, and still remains, if you are doing everything right the...

Relationship Information Online and its Value

Jan 3, 2009 7:26am

It's up to us to compare notes, try new things and see what works for us; and then share what we know with others. Read more......

How to Make a Relationship Last Forever

Dec 31, 2008 7:07am

To make a relationship last, infuse love with as many thoughts as you can for your spouse every moment. Read more......

Divorce Advice from Paul

Dec 27, 2008 5:37pm

By the time people have fumbled around in a marital relationship and are looking for divorce advice they are discouraged and confused. But the most simple advice for those who have children is don't do it, if there is any way at all to avoid it. Read more......

Understanding Women in Relationships - 5 tips

Dec 24, 2008 6:43am

I know you girls will be reading this even though this is directed towards the guys in your life; it's okay... It really isn't that hard to understand women in relationships if you understand the biology and psycho-physiological drives that create the desires and needs within her. Read more......

Marriage Problems are Not what they Seem

Dec 21, 2008 4:03pm

Nearly everyone I met with was convinced their spouse was untrustworthy and untruthful. When I questioned them they realized they had exaggerated little incidences into huge dramas that scared them into very defensive postures. Read more......

The Marine Corp Divorce Rate is Up

Dec 19, 2008 5:48am

When I speak with couples who are in a troubled marriage, they readily admit they had no idea of what they were getting into. By the time reality shows itself they are ill equipped to define it. Read more......

Relationship Counseling - 6 Questions to Ask

Dec 16, 2008 6:39am

From my point of view it is rather unfortunate that psychologists are viewed by most people as being at the same educational and intelligence level as a doctor of medicine. Read more......

Am I Ready To Get Married Quiz - 9 Questions

Dec 14, 2008 4:14am

Compatibility is very important. So I have come up with the ultimate Am I Ready to Get Married Quiz. Read more......

How the Auto Industry Bailout Affects Marriages

Dec 11, 2008 2:42pm

But instead of getting right to the heart of the problem the government is dealing with a result of the problem, an ailing industry... Like an ailing marriage. Read more......

Marriage Advice for New Parents

Dec 8, 2008 4:27am

For most people who are uninformed about marriage and how a marriage works, the new baby actually becomes a subconscious excuse to not face reality. Read more......

Marriage Problems are not the Problem

Dec 7, 2008 8:05am

If you want to get rid of your marriage problems stop making new ones and the old ones will disappear on their own. Does this make sense to you? Read more......

Not a Marriage Compatibility Test

Dec 5, 2008 12:08am

If you have answered yes to at least two out of the four questions you are not only compatible but you have the ability to have the happiest marriage on Earth. Read more......

Questions To Ask Before Ending A Relationship

Dec 3, 2008 6:15am

The most important question to ask before ending a relationship is, "Is this the kind of person I want to spend my entire life with?" If the answer is "no," … Read more......

The Most Common Mistakes Women Make When Picking Their Future Spouse

Dec 1, 2008 3:26pm

The above are the three biggest mistakes women make in picking a spouse. The best way to pick a husband is by creating a list of all the favorable traits you can think of for your future husband. Then prioritize your list and challenge your top 10 selections. Read more......

4 Steps for a Good Relationship

Nov 29, 2008 6:29am

By following the four steps outlined above you almost certainly have a fulfilling and loving relationship - it almost can't be helped. Read more......

5 Signs Of A Healthy Relationship

Nov 27, 2008 9:22am

Please don't imagine that perfect is not possible; it is. Some of the attributes you might come up with may be slightly different from what others come up with, but there will be definite similarities. Read more......

Relationship Compatibility - The More you Give

Nov 24, 2008 8:46am

Now ask me about relationship compatibility. It always boils down to the same thing, the more you give, the better you live. Read more......

Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships

Nov 21, 2008 6:27am

Never think of jealousy as part of yourself or anyone else. Jealousy, like other unwelcome intruders, can be pushed out by the owner of the mind. Read more......

How to Save a Marriage

Nov 19, 2008 6:24am

...it is normal to have a happy marriage as long as you're following what I would call the physics of marriage. There are natural laws for everything. Read more......

Relationship Advice For Those Who Are Breaking Up

Nov 17, 2008 6:01am

Most often a relationship can be saved even when there is infidelity. But it is more difficult to save marriages that are falling apart when the wife has become involved with another man then the other way around. Read more......

Family Counseling - Is it Necessary?

Nov 14, 2008 6:18am

A lot of time and money could be saved, and emotional pain and suffering would end if people understood one another and realized that the family is meant to be the safest refuge in the world. Read more......

4 Intimate Questions To Ask Your Partner

Nov 12, 2008 8:46am

I have prepared a list of four intimate questions to ask your partner. I want you to take turns asking each other and then thoroughly enjoy watching, and experiencing each other's responses. Read more......

Dream Marriage - A How To

Nov 10, 2008 6:10am

Our environment prods us towards happiness, sadness, boredom or excitement, but it is not outer conditions alone that are responsible for our feelings. Read more......

Love over Trust in Relationships

Nov 8, 2008 2:04pm

When we enter into a marriage it isn't our job to criticize our partner for their weaknesses. It is our job to support them through their difficult times. Read more......

Love Advice for your Relationship

Nov 6, 2008 1:58pm

When we have established the relationship of a marriage or our intention to be married we agree to open our hearts so love can flow through without restrictions. Read more......

Relationship Advice For Newlyweds Part 2

Nov 4, 2008 2:16pm

The first thing you need to do is not do anything dumb (any more). Fights are no longer acceptable forms of communication. Read more......

Divorce Advice for Women

Nov 2, 2008 6:06am

My belief is divorce has become acceptable because mainstream therapists simply don't know how to help a married couple remain together. Read more......

Marriage Counseling Won't Work - If you Never See Him or Her Anymore

Oct 29, 2008 2:39pm

Where do you live? Do you live in a city, an apartment, a house or the country? Or do you live in a family? Or maybe where you really live is within yourself. Think about it. You are constantly surrounded, physically by your physical environment. Read...

Relationship Advice For Newlyweds Part 1

Oct 27, 2008 2:47pm

Warning: This Article is for Those who are Having Second Thoughts soon After the Wedding and are Not Pregnant and Don't Have Children Read more......

How Does Divorce Affect The Family? - Insight

Oct 22, 2008 6:04pm

The effort required to learn how to be happily married is microscopic compared to the suffering that comes from getting a divorce. Read more......

Relationship Advice For Marriage Counselors

Oct 20, 2008 7:24am

Having a happy marriage doesn't require "fixing" each other or even yourself. You and your spouse are more than good enough to be happily married. Marriage only requires adjusting your behavior and communication to what is called for in a marriage. Read more......

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